For many veterans, moving from military life to civilian life is not easy. It is more than learning new routines. It can bring feelings of loss, distance or grief. Leaving a shared mission, close bonds and clear structure can be hard.
These feelings may last a long time. Some veterans say they still struggle to feel connected or to belong, even months or years later. Because the effects of service can continue, ongoing support for veterans and their families is important.
The unique stress veterans face
Veterans often face mental health challenges that civilians may not. Research shows veterans are more likely to experience depression and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Many also face a higher risk of substance use. Veterans are also at higher risk of suicide than the general public. These challenges can affect any veteran, even those who did not see combat.
How service affects the family
Stress does not affect only the veteran. It can affect the whole family. Military families often move many times. This can disrupt school, work and support systems.
There can also be emotional changes. A veteran may come home feeling distant, tense or unsure how to talk about their experiences. This can feel confusing or lonely for a spouse or child. Family members may not fully understand what the veteran went through, which can create stress at home.
Research shows that deployments, sudden changes and worry about safety can affect how families talk, solve problems and support each other. Over time, this can affect relationships, parenting and mental health.
Building wellness as a family
Healing takes time, patience and shared effort. These steps can help support family wellness:
- Create shared routines. A weekly meal or walk gives everyone time to connect. Simple routines add stability.
- Encourage open talks. Asking “How are you really doing?” can start an honest conversation.
- Practice wellness together. Exercise, breathing, hobbies or volunteering can reduce stress and build trust.
- Use available resources. Lucet’s Veterans Support Toolkit offers mental health resources, family guidance and crisis support.
- Seek family-focused care. Family therapy or group support can help everyone understand and heal together.
“Military culture values strength and independence. After service, this can make asking for help feel hard. But asking for help is not weakness. It shows courage.”
Crystal Servello, LMSW – Clinical Operations
Asking for help is a strength
Military culture values strength and independence. After service, this can make asking for help feel hard. But asking for help is not weakness. It shows courage, awareness and care for yourself and your family.
If you are a veteran or family member thinking about support such as counseling, therapy, or crisis help, you are not alone. Mutual support matters and can strengthen relationships. Listening, offering help or sharing resources can make a real difference.
Crystal Servello, LMSW is a clinician on the clinical operations team at Lucet.
